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Expectation is the root of all heartache
By Karthik | June 6, 2008
Expectation is the root of all heartache
So says William Shakespeare. But what is life without expectations?
You are in a relationship, and you have certain expectations of how you want your spouse or partner to react when you do something especially special for them. Imagine not being appreciated, and totally ignored, after all the planning that took all your time. I mean, expectations are indeed the root to all heartache, but does that mean we should abandon expectations and live life without any expectations? Let’s be practical.
I’d rather say expect and be hurt than not to expect at all. Because, when expectations are met, they are truly gratifying. Which definitely is fruitful; if I may say so?
Expecting a certain outcome, and being disappointed at the end only makes us want to try harder. Otherwise, we’re a quitter. Are we one? I don’t think so and so we shall never seek to stop having expectations.
I want to focus a little on just relationship for now.
“Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love.” Leo Buscaqlia
Without expectation? It is not as easy as the philosophers have quoted. It’s better to have expectations, and when you are in a relationship, it is always better to have healthy communication between partners. I mean if you have a certain amount of expectation from your spouse, empathetic ones, I am sure healthy communication between the two would definitely make the relationship such a beautiful one. We expect, and we communicate our expectations which are reasonable and empathetic, how can it go wrong as much as avoiding expectation altogether in the fear of getting hurt?
No, it doesn’t make sense that way, at least to me.
“We must learn to reawaken and keep ourselves awake, not by mechanical aid, but by an infinite expectation of the dawn.” Henry David Thoreau
The definition of Expectation: The prospect of the future; grounds upon which something excellent is expected to happen; prospect of anything good to come, esp. of property or rank. (Isn’t this ultimately what the Law of Attraction is about? In some way or the other…)
“High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation” Charles F. Kettering.
That’s why they say, healthy arguments in a relationship is important to understand each other better. You have expectations of your partner, which is always something positive. As long as there is mutual respect and healthy communication, your expectations when voiced out, will be gratifying!
And it’s for you.
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